I need to watch my language. And I'm not exactly talking about bad words. (Although I could watch that at times too.)
What I'm really talking about is me being negative. Especially me being negative about myself.
Here is where my mind tends to go when I'm thinking about my future: "I'm never going to meet anyone.", "I'm going to be alone forever.", "I'm never going to have a good relationship.", "It's so hard to meet new people.", etc... I think you get the picture. And I'm sure that to you all reading this, those thoughts seem ridiculous. And logically, they are ridiculous! But in my heart on an insecure vulnerable day they seem very very real. Do you ever have moments like that? Moments where you know your mind has gone way off the deep end, but it seems so realistic and you can't quite pull yourself out.
I wonder if when I'm thinking those negative thoughts about myself if God gets a little insulted. (If our God was a God that got insulted, I'm sure He would be.) Can't you just see Him, giving me the "you're being crazy" eyes, wondering why I can't just trust Him? I can. And when I think about it that way, ummmm whoa, I am being completely silly.
The problem with negative thoughts is that they are just like any other bad habit and the more you think them, the more they stick with you. The more they stick with you, the more they become your reality. So in my case, when I meet someone new these thoughts are taunting me in the background. Have they messed up a new relationship for me? Eh... I'm not so sure of that because I've gone on dates with mostly jerks and crazies, but I know those thoughts haunting me haven't helped anything.
So all of this comes back to faith. When has God not provided for me? Never. So I need to work on changing my language. And doing that sounds something like this, "I trust that God will put an amazing man in my life when my heart and his is ready.", "I know I'm going to get married one day.", "There is a perfect guy out there for me and I can't wait to meet him." I've been trying this the past 11 days and it's actually starting to work. I can feel a shift in the way I feel about myself and where my heart is.
If you are a negative self talker like I am. Whether it's about dating or not, I am encouraging you to wake up every morning and pray that God will help you have positive thoughts. Positive thoughts about life, your future and yourself. If we are going to be true Christ followers we have to trust everyday that God is in control and that He knows what He's doing.
So if you hear me ever being negative about myself... Please correct me. In a completely loving way of course.
Verse of the Day: Jeremiah 29:11-13
Signed: This girl needs to write more this week.
I do the same thing! Thank you for this, the verse is a great reminder!
ReplyDeleteThis is good. Standing on the truth is SO important. If you are visual, making a simple list of TRUTHS that God says in His word would be a great thing to to keep out so you see it everyday. I think it would do nothing but add to your positive thinking. :) I have to catch myself too at times, my inner voice is sometimes very negative (especially about myself).
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